MandaMae,
Wel come to our corner of the Internet and the state. I personally really enjoy physical affection that is coerced and extracted from either side of my bedroom, so I know exactly what you mean.
I really hope you find someone to trust enough to play this way. If you'd like, please feel free to join us at either of our monthly open events. Raq'Em is the first Thursday (this month, the 2nd) at Billiards on Broadway, then our Munch rotates location on the third Wednesday (15th).
I know you mentioned you had a kid. If neither of those times work, say so and maybe the group can get together at a time that does work for you.